Using the resources at hand
Some of us look around and say “I have nothing that could make money.” My rule is that if someone else needs it, then it can make you money. Every physical thing, you have in your possession because at one time or another you needed that item. What do you have in your basement- tons of collectibles, items ripe and ready for a yard sale, or auctioning online? Do you have a computer? Then the possibilities are so much more.

Using the resources within
All of us are born with everything we will need for life and living. We are born with natural abilities, curiosity and the capacity to learn new things. Therefore, we have an untapped pool within us that can help us not only make a living but live an extraordinary life when properly applied. Within you, there is a God-given ability that will help you make a living and care for your family. This unlimited potential may be already at work in your current 9 to 5, but there may also remain greater potential, untapped abilities, creativity and energy to be used to earn more. 

Begin With What You Know
Often we begin to ask questions, and then focus on the ones we cannot answer alone, thereby becoming overwhelmed by our lack of knowledge. Rather we should focus on what we know and are certain about. Therefore, to avoid this mental trap, you can begin by making a list of what you already know, the knowledge, skills, and insights you are bringing to this business, and what you are confident you can accomplish with the resources you have. 

Begin With What You Have
Start building the business today in simple steps with what you have on hand. One man’s ordinary item if placed in the right hands and given a new purpose, can make an extraordinary difference in someone else’s life. 

Begin By Filling a Need
If you are unsure about the type of business you want to open, you can begin by surveying the people you know and finding out what are some of their needs that can be met if there was a product or service created with them in mind. Needs are often found at the end of the statement, “If I just had someone or something that could______.” This person is expressing a need that would be valuable to them.
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Begin With What You Love- If you love to tutor young children in science, play in a band, give advice, collect rare items, your passion can become profitable. In your passion lies the potential to build a great business product or service. Begin by seeing what services or products already exist from those who share your passion.  

What does look like when someone is restless physically and emotionally

• When someone is restless, physically you can see it all over them; they look anxious, they are not paying attention.
• A restless person is edgy, moving from this thing to that, from one activity to another, one idea to the next, they never seem to settle down
• People who are fidgety or tense make the people around them feel insecure and nervous
• A restless mind is constantly racing, thinking, busy and can lead to not sleeping well
• Being restless will affect your mental and your physical health. Your mind needs to be able to slow down to process information and make decisions.
• Your physical body when restless, is in a state of stress, this is difficult to maintain. Your body is releasing adrenaline and cortisol stress hormones. Feeling like you are in a constant emergency state.

Emotional Restlessness
When you are emotionally restless, it feels like being stuck where you are and wanting to be somewhere else. Emotionally restless people are often unhappy, unsettled, and can't explain why. Here are some of the thoughts that occur when you are emotional unsettled.

• It's the feeling that "I am not where I want to be in life"
• "I thought I would be doing something else by now"
• "I feel like life has passed me by, and everyone else is doing better"
• "I want fill in the blank ___(the house, car, relationship) now!"
• "Why is nothing working"
• "When I am here, I want to be some where else, when I get there, I want to be back at the old place. "
• "I switched jobs I am not happy"
• "I moved I am still not happy"
• "I left a relationship and now I am lonely and not happy"

How can I change it?

• Emotional restlessness comes from being unsatisfied or unfilled. The thing, person, job, or place you thought would change everything did not live up to the expectation. You are not happier and better off because the solution, a better job, car, or house did not solve the real problem.

 

• This can cause some to become more frustrated because they were legitimately trying to fix a problem. Trying to feel better. You did not fail in trying to feel better, you made the effort, and you were aware that something needs to change, something was off center for you. Now the work is identifying what the real problem you are trying to solve.

 

• For example, you might not need a new job, it may be a different position. If you are the type of person that thrives and gets excited about working with people and you are stuck working with machines all day. You are not in a place that fits your need to work with people and get the benefits and joy that comes from it.

 

• If you are restless because you feel "I should have that house by now, I am behind all the peers or family members, they all have houses." The solution is not the house. The stress and restlessness are from comparison. The question you might ask is, why do I not feel I measure up?

 

• What will the house do for me? It's it about feeling accepted, worth, equal, or successful? If the house is really about having a home, what if you had to wait another 5, 10 years for the best house? Would you settle for any house just to feel like you made it, or would you wait for the best house for you?

 
To address the restlessness, you have to look at what is causing you to be so uncomfortable. Your expectations of yourself may be unrealistic and unfair.

• Your timelines may be too short, now or never, by next year or next month. These timelines bring on more pressure and stress.
• Your motivation may be about pleasing other people, not what you want.
• You may be in competition with someone who does not know and does not care.
• Your vision might be limited, you think the place you are now is going nowhere or has no benefit, and in reality, it is the right opportunity, with the right people to get you exactly what you want if you can be patient enough to let happen.

Consider this, stop running, jumping from one thing to the next, and hiding. Start discovering what the real reason for the restlessness is. Then you can move from restless to restful, experiencing a calm mind, relaxed body, and perfect fit in your life.

​Thank you for joining me. May you continue to grow in hope, faith, and love.

Being emotional burned out is like driving a car with no oil, the oil in the engine allows the metal parts that are sliding and rubbing against each other not to grind down and damage each other. Your engine running without oil will lose power, stall, and get damaged, leading to $1,000 of repair when a $4.00 bottle of oil could have prevented the breakdown. 

What does it feel like to be emotionally burnout?

• You are feeling physically drained 
• Emotionally you are on edge, becoming impatient with others
• Feeling nervous, anxious because you might forget to do something important
• Getting sick often, headaches (symbolic of overthinking), backaches (carrying everyone and everything on your back), stomachaches (anxiety, stress giving you knots in your belly feelings) 
• Feel like you are sinking because there are too many demands and no one to help you
• Short-tempered, easily angry even if you don't show it
• Trying to avoid people because you are afraid, they will ask you to do more
• Frustrated because you feel like you can't ask for help, why, because those can help are busy, those who should help don't care, and others avoid you altogether
• You are not enjoying something you worked hard, it brought you excitement, and now it feels like it takes from you more than it gives. 
• You become resentful because we don't see how things will change or when the change will come. 

 
Is it too late to recover from it?

• You can recover from emotional burnout by cutting back or removing
• Remove what you can let go of, people that are draining you, extra tasks that are not necessary, and commitments that are out of obligation, not desire (these are the things other people made you feel guilty about, and now you are taking it on) 
• The things or activities you can't remove slow down or cut back the amount of time spent doing that task 
• Practice saying no; this is sometimes the only way to break free and recover your peace and energy back; saying no is respecting your time, energy, and resources. When we say no, we have more left to say yes to the most important people and activities in our lives. Say no to the people and things causing you to feel sick, tired, nervous, and stuck.

 
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Relationship Break-up
The emotions that make it difficult

• Sadness – "I miss them more than I thought I would"
• Denial – "I can't believe this happened to me."
• Anger – "Why did I waste my time."
• Disbelief – "How did this happen."
• Rejection – "Why did they not want to be with me."
• Isolation – "I don't feel like being around anyone because they will ask me about the situation."
• Embarrassment – "Everyone thought we were a great couple, now what do I say."

The fears relationship break-ups create in your heart

• Abandonment – "Why did they break up with me."
• Rejection – "They picked someone else over me."
• Loneliness – "I miss them".
• Taken advantage of – "I wish I knew sooner this was not going to work out."

The relationship break-ups questions in your mind

• Will they move on forget about me? Hoping it could be worked out, wanting to matter to the other person.
• Will I find someone else? Sometimes we perceive others will not want us because this person did not.
• Is it always going to be this difficult? - That is an unfair judgment because each relationship is different.
• Did they love me, or was it a lie? You can keep asking this question and stay stuck, or you can choose to believe the relationship for what it was. This will allow you to move through this phase and grieve.

What to do next

Grieve the relationship and allow yourself to move forward. It's okay to acknowledge that you miss them. Allow yourself to let go, give away or return the items gained from the relationship. If giving the items back is unsafe or the other person has stated they don't want it, respect that wish, and don't.

Appreciate the time you spent with that person and the fun you had. Remember, the entire relationship was not bad. You made a choice to connect, love, and spend time with the individual. This made the relationship have merit. There was love, fun, joy, and good in it. Without those elements saying goodbye would be easier.

Talk to someone you trust about how you feel. This will help you to safely share and allow you to release the emotions. Talking with someone who is wise helps us to get a balanced perspective of the situation. Allow yourself to express the hurt and sadness in a safe way. Be honest about your part in the break-up.

Learn from the relationship mistakes. Learning from our errors helps us to feel empowered. Not creating the same type of relationship environment allows us to grow. Being in relationships allows us to see ourselves the way other people see us. Use that information to make changes and become better at relating to others. Grow in compassion, understanding, and communication.

Choose to be better in the next relationship. We have to make a choice to improve and change. You can stay the same and repeat the mistakes of the past relationship or you can choose to get better. You can choose to change using the information you have learned about yourself. If you keep blaming the other person and refuse to see what you contributed, then change will be limited, and growth will be difficult.