Conflict or Complacency

A word of advice from author, therapist, and coach Gessy Martinez:

     Conflict comes desiring to be resolved by those entangled in it. Compromise can only take place when both parties are ready to listen, validate each other, and demonstrate respect. If a compromise is reached only for the sake of temporary peace and not resolution; then someone is often left as the losing party on the other side of the compromise. 
     We often seek temporary band aids to stop the fighting just because we are tired of fighting. Not because we really want resolution. We need to fix what needs fixing. The problem with band-aids is that they fall off without much resistance. Band-aids last for a very short time, the bleeding may stop but the wound does not always heal properly.
     Resolve the conflicts in your life , avoid complacency.  Instead of band-aids, take the time to clean and heal the wounds properly.  This is an investment worth making for long term peace, joy and healthy relationships. The more areas in your life where you have peace, the better quality of life you will experience. Move your conversations, decisions and relationships in the direction of peace. 


Successfully Yours,
Gessy Martinez