A word of advice from author, therapist, and coach Gessy Martinez:
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Twenty Five: The Quarter point
Around this time in your life, you realize you want to re-evaluate some choices, make a five-year plan and settle down. Also, around this time you start to reflect on some of the more questionable decisions you have made. A degree you’ve switched around, peers you’ve friended and unfriended, advice you’ve given to others and not taken yourself. Most probably done with liquid courage.
When it comes to relationships you might be at a point where you’ve realized you're not sure where you have gone wrong in not only quality but quantity as well.
When it comes down to figuring out your choices in a partner: Now you are a strong independent person who has survived quite a bit. So why does it seem that the quality of the resume needed is either married or totally off. What makes you pick the unsuitable?
When we talk about love, it's often about loving someone else. Loving yourself and taking care of yourself is a secondary thought and for many, it's a rare thought or a selfish thought. Love has to start with loving yourself. It must begin to live in you before it can pour out of you.
When love lives inside of you, then it is easier to welcome love, acceptance, appreciation and praise from others. That knowing and believing you are capable of being loved. You are worthy of love and deserve love. The confidence that comes with understanding love will seek you out and find you because your words, actions, and pure motives compel love to be reciprocated into your life.
Don’t search for love, invite expressions of love in your life, believe you are worthy of love. Love is a gift that has to be received, accepted and given permission to grow. Then shared by finding someone to show love to in return. The simplicity of love is that it has to be accepted and shared to grow. The beauty of love is that it is limitless, comes in many forms and can catch you by surprise.