the danger of comparison
To compare yourself with others is picking up a tool meant to measure success, completion, or method of one person to their goals, but instead and use it against yourself and measure yourself against them. The practice of comparing yourself to others will rob you of contentment, joy and make everyone else look better, their lives more successful and their goal grander.
Conflict or Complacency
A word of advice from author, therapist, and coach Gessy Martinez:
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Twenty Five: The Quarter point
Around this time in your life, you realize you want to re-evaluate some choices, make a five-year plan and settle down. Also, around this time you start to reflect on some of the more questionable decisions you have made. A degree you’ve switched around, peers you’ve friended and unfriended, advice you’ve given to others and not taken yourself. Most probably done with liquid courage.
When it comes to relationships you might be at a point where you’ve realized you're not sure where you have gone wrong in not only quality but quantity as well.
When it comes down to figuring out your choices in a partner: Now you are a strong independent person who has survived quite a bit. So why does it seem that the quality of the resume needed is either married or totally off. What makes you pick the unsuitable?
love lives here
When we talk about love, it's often about loving someone else. Loving yourself and taking care of yourself is a secondary thought and for many, it's a rare thought or a selfish thought. Love has to start with loving yourself. It must begin to live in you before it can pour out of you.
When love lives inside of you, then it is easier to welcome love, acceptance, appreciation and praise from others. That knowing and believing you are capable of being loved. You are worthy of love and deserve love. The confidence that comes with understanding love will seek you out and find you because your words, actions, and pure motives compel love to be reciprocated into your life.
Don’t search for love, invite expressions of love in your life, believe you are worthy of love. Love is a gift that has to be received, accepted and given permission to grow. Then shared by finding someone to show love to in return. The simplicity of love is that it has to be accepted and shared to grow. The beauty of love is that it is limitless, comes in many forms and can catch you by surprise.
time to get noticed
Your motivation for the week from the author of Why Strong Women Struggle:
Know You Have What It Takes
One can get anything if he is willing to help enough others get what they want. – Zig Ziglar, salesman
In these times, and with the high number of people unemployed or underemployed, many are seeking creative ways to make extra money. Making extra money can help you make ends meet, save money for college, travel, or to pay debts. Extra money can be used to remodel a home, take care of a loved one, or carry you through a period of unemployment or special circumstance. There are many reasons to seek to earn extra money, and there are equally as many ways to go about doing this.
Empty, emotionally drained, and not sure how to get full again? Not sure how to feel joy again? Have you ever looked inside your full refrigerator and thought I have nothing to eat? Have you sat with a tank full of gas and said, "I have nowhere to go"? A house full of electronics, toys, games and stated, "I have nothing to do." Saying to yourself, "I'm so bored. I wish there were something fun to do now". Inside, a room full of people said, "I am so lonely; no one loves me." How can you feel full if you will not eat? Sometimes the very thing we want is in front of us, but we reject it and then wonder we are still hungry. If you feel empty, it's likely related to an emotional need that is not being met—the need for love, affection, time, or attention.
Today, we focus on what to do when we feel restless. This episode will look at what it means to be emotional and physically restless or unsettled and some reasons we become restless. We will Aspire and Reach for More in our lives by becoming restful instead of restless.
Last episode, we talked about emotional burnout, which adds to this conversation of being restless.
today's podcast episode
Today, we focus on what to do when we feel emotionally burned out. In this episode we will look at what does it feel like to be emotionally burned out? How can you prevent it? And is it too late to recover from it? We will Aspire and Reach for More in our emotions by refusing to give all our time, energy, finances, and peace over to unimportant things.
today's podcast episode
What To Do When A Relationship Breaks Up. This episode of the Aspire and Reach for More Podcast examines the emotions that make relationship break-ups difficult. The break-up can create fears, leave you with many questions, and trying to figure out what to do next. We will Aspire and Reach for More in our lives by choosing to heal after a relationship failure.
I’m Gessy Martinez, LPC, LCDC and I’m here to help you start healing today. Healing from your past is possible.